However, those the Father has given me will come to me and I will never reject them. John 6:37
I’m not a fan of confrontation. I have noticed that alot of people thrive on it. I am a recovering people pleaser so previously when someone opposed me or was stern with me, I buckled under the pressure. In the past I have agreed with them or kept quiet altogether. This was a barrier for me to share my faith. It caused me to agree with what I knew to be contrary to the Bible. I’m not proud to admit any of this but I feel like someone needs to hear this today. Someone needs to know they are not in the fight alone.
People pleasing originates from rejection. Rejection is knowingly or unknowingly withholding love from another person. Overt rejection is the obvious. Name calling, physical abuse, throwing objects and fits of rage. Covert rejection is subtle and hard to identify. It manifests itself in the silent treatment, avoiding the person or the absence of physical touch. Both forms of rejection are harmful to a person’s self confidence and self worth. The person rejected begins to try to please the other person in any way possible to regain that love and attention. In time rejected people look to please anyone they come in contact with to feel loved and accepted. It is empty and futile. Jesus is all that we will ever need.
I remember clearly when these truths were presented to me. My whole world changed. Because I had experienced rejection most of my life, I was in turn treating those I love the same way. If people didn’t act like I wanted them to, I withheld love from them. I tried to control them into acting the way I wanted them to by restricting my love for them. All the recipient gets from it is that they are unloved, unwanted or abandoned. The person rejecting is setting standards for people according to what makes them comfortable. Only God has supreme authority and is the only one that can set standards.
People pleasing and rejection took me down many unwanted and unhealthy paths. “If I do that maybe they will accept me. If I do this maybe they will love me.” These are all lies from the enemy! You have all of the acceptance and love you will ever need in Jesus. He says in our key verse today that He will never reject you. The father didn’t reject the prodigal son and Jesus surely won’t reject you.
I heard a story this week that I wanted to share. A shepherd had a sheep that was pregnant with twins. She delivered a boy and a girl. After a half of a day he noticed that the girl had been rejected by her mother. She had not even been cleaned up. The shepherd sprang into action! He bottle fed the lamb. When she was full, he carefully cleaned her up. He took special care of the lamb because she had been rejected. She received more attention than all of the other sheep because of her condition.
Have you been rejected by someone that you love, admire or respect? I know you are hurting. I know treating others the same way that you have been treated feels like the right thing to do and all you know how to do. Your Shepherd wants to step in and take care of you. He wants to fill you with spiritual truths, living water so you will never thirst again and take your mess and clean it all up. He knows first hand what the sting of rejection feels like from people that He loves. He was abandoned by His disciples in His hour of need so He sympathizes. He sees you. He understands. He cares.
Allow Jesus to come in and bandage those wounds and heal them completely. He wants to show you a new way of living that produces life, hope and security. He loves you with an everlasting love. That means He won’t stop for any reason and He will never give up on you, He will never stop loving you and He will never abandon you. He is completely trustworthy.
Friend, feel free to email or leave a comment if you would like someone to talk to. I have prayed for you today.